I am a college writing professor, post-divorce transformation coach, writer, and now proud single mom of two amazing young men. Personal writing/journal writing has been my way of coping with trauma, since I was a young girl of nine or ten years old. So, first and foremost, I’m going to recommend that you write. While, I will often share my thoughts and ideas on other life skills that I’ve found useful or meaningful, my control center and main life management tool is a good, old-fashioned notebook and a fountain pen, and I swear by them.
I have kept a notebook and planner by my side throughout my entire life, but it wasn’t until 2014 that I returned to the kind of deep, introspective writing I’d used as a child. This time, though, it was on a much more mature level. When faced with the sudden and traumatic separation from my husband of nearly 20 years, I found purchased a new notebook and turning to writing to cope with the trauma. I wrote as if my whole life depended on it. I wrote every day, often multiple times a day, and I shared this process and my journey with my college students and many others through social media. I cannot believe how many people followed my often difficult journey through my lengthy separation and challenging divorce via my Instagram account, @ninjatraveling, where I gave a raw and honest account of my experiences, in the hopes of maintaining my voice and helping others find theirs. I sincerely hope it helped others. It helped me.
As a college writing professor with a love of teaching others about the power of writing, I was inspired to share and teach the process and power of this transformational personal writing to others, and thus have held various online and live workshops over the past few years. This has helped me gain greater insight into just how much transformational writing can help other people.
Recently, in 2018, I was faced with the sudden tragedy and my greatest challenge. In June 2018, my ex-husband, one of the main characters in my journaling from 2014-1018, died from heart complications. I found herself grappling with the death of my former spouse, the painful, heartbreaking grief of my sons, and my still lingering feelings about the ending of our marriage all at once. I discovered, though, that I felt able and I was stronger and more empowered than I’d ever been before. I’d changed from the little girl I was 40 years ago, but also from the diminished woman I was just five years ago. I had been writing continuously since 2014 and it has proven to be the most powerful and transformative life tool I have ever known.
Writing through challenges, trauma, and tragedies has given me a deeper sense of compassion, self-awareness, and inner strength than I would have ever thought possible. I continues to share this insight with anyone who needs to empower themselves.
I love to hear from people, so feel free to drop me a line about anything, and start/keep writing.