Separation, divorce, and other significant life changes can be daunting, but they are also pivotal points in your life. I’d like you to come to see them as important opportunities to craft a life you love.
I was around nine years old when I made the conscious decision that life, after enduring what would be my earliest life challenges, would not make me bitter. I decided then that my life would never be defined by what happened to me, but by what I wanted it to be. I think the most important strategy I have used is writing in my notebook. It was in my notebook where I would process my feelings, deal with my hurt and anger, visualize the life I wanted, record observations from my day, collect meaningful quotes, and design the narrative of my life — the things that mattered to me —- the things that would be a part of the story I would keep telling myself about the life I lived and who I was.
From 2014 to 2018, I was faced with the most significant challenges in my adult life. Beginning with an unexpected separation in July 2014, followed by a high-conflict and contentious separation and divorce that ended my nearly 20-year marriage, and then the sudden death of my former spouse and father of my two sons, now 16 and 11 years old, in June 2018. During that time, I relied on my personal writing more than ever. It provided a way of coping with the extreme emotions and difficult circumstances with which I was being faced.
My daily habits — personal writing (journaling), mediation, exercise, healthy eating, mindfulness and living a simple but love-filled life have enabled me to find balance, success, and joy, despite the tumult I’ve experienced.
My mission is to help others, especially women who find themselves dealing with significant challenges and/or loss, such as trauma, divorce, and death, learn and use writing to transform their difficult stories into empowering and beautiful ones. Let’s write together.