Drama and distractions. I try to avoid them at all costs, but from time to time I find myself getting a bit closer to drama than I would like or a bit too tempted by distractions that I would like, and because of that I rely a lot on self-awareness and reflection.
I am fortunate enough to be able to live a life that I get to craft. That wasn’t always the case. For a long time, most of my life in fact, I seemed to live a life in which I was always responding to or reacting to the things that were going on around me, instead of focusing on living the kind of life that I actually wanted to live.
Here are eight things that that make you more “unfuckwithable”:
Establish long-term goals and break them into small, actionable steps. In order to live the life you want to live, be clear about what that is. Revisit your core values and long-term goals often. But that alone is not enough. Break down your long-term goals into smaller tasks, which will bring you closer to achieving the larger goal.
Revisit long-term goals often. If you don’t revisit your core values and long-term goals often (weekly works well), then you will sure lose sight of them and go off track. It’s easy to get distracted and it’s easy to bogged down in the daily activities and tasks that take up much your time. Additionally, tasks delegated to you by others, as well as distractions, will add to the many factors that can lead you astray.
Overcome fear of failure by understanding its value. People mostly cast failure in a negative life. Failing in school is something no one wants to do. Failed marriages are painful and traumatizing. No one plans for them. However, living a full life requires taking risks, which often times result in failure. Every risk cannot and will not result in success. Failure can have value. Failure can carry with it some of your greatest life lessons. You don’t love to fail, but it happens. When it does, look for the lessons.
Avoid comparing yourself to others. You do you. Social media has made comparing ourselves to others an even greater problem than it used to be, but people have always tried to keep up with the Joneses. Chance are, though, that you may not have the same goals or dreams as the Joneses, so there’s no reason for you to compare yourself to them. You are running your own race, living your own life, dancing to the beat of your own drummer.
Be grateful for what you have. Take inventory and stock of the many good things that you have in your life. It will help you maintain a healthy perspective, clear head, happy heart because you won’t get bogged down in moping about how your life didn’t or isn’t going. Rather you can and should be appreciative of the many things that you do have in your life, and we all have something, even during challenging times.
Stop whining and complaining and avoid being around people who do. Whiners and complainers are tough to be around. If you don’t join them and try to help them see the bright side, they frequently disagree. They’d rather bring you into their negativity than see the brighter side of things. And this can be difficult to resist. After all, life can be tough. At the same time, whining and complaining are not actionable and don’t lead to positive change. It’s wasted energy, and most of us have too little energy to waste in the first place. Use your energy in positive ways. It’s a valuable resource.
Your word matter. Keep your promises to yourself and your word to others. Stand behind the things that you say and promise. Not living up to your word drains you of your energy. It creates negative feelings because we disappoint others and we disappoint ourselves. When we keep our word and we are authentic and true to ourselves and others, we create positive feelings and positive energy.
Give value to self-care. You should matter to you. Having a clear mind, happy heart, and healthy body make you less susceptible to BS and distraction because you want the best for yourself. Protect the integrity of your well-being. When you are protecting your own well-being, you will also be more able to help and be of service to others. This has a cyclical effect and will benefit you and those you serve/help. It just goes around and around, making the world a better place.